Balancing Achievement Drive with Sustainable Leadership

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The relentless drive for achievement that propels many executives to success can become their greatest challenge in building sustainable leadership careers. As illustrated in a recent executive coaching session, high-performing leaders often struggle to find the right balance between seizing every opportunity and maintaining personal sustainability.

The session revealed a common pattern: when presented with compelling opportunities, ambitious leaders often default to "if it's physically possible, I'll make it happen" - even when already operating at capacity. While this approach demonstrates impressive capability and dedication, it can lead to periods of burnout, strained relationships, and missed opportunities for developing others.

One executive reflected, "I don't want to be the kind of leader who'll do everything all the time and then burn out at some point, leaving everyone else to deal with the fallout." This insight highlights a critical inflection point many leaders face: recognizing that long-term impact requires more than just personal heroics.

““I don’t want to be the kind of leader who’ll do everything all the time and then burn out at some point, leaving everyone else to deal with the fallout.” ”

— John C - CFO

The primary challenge emerges around calibrating ambition - learning to say no to good opportunities so you can say yes to great ones, while building sustainable practices that allow for recovery and growth. This includes developing the capacity to delegate meaningful work and creating space for others to develop their capabilities.

For leaders grappling with this balance, consider these reflective questions:

1. How might your drive for achievement be limiting your organization's overall capability by inadvertently stunting others' growth opportunities?

2. What would it look like to measure your success not just by what you personally accomplish, but by the capability you build in others?

3. Where in your current role are you saying "yes" out of pride or habit rather than strategic necessity?

A practical next step is to identify one significant project or responsibility that you can thoughtfully transition to another team member over the next quarter. The goal isn't just delegation - it's creating space for others to develop while giving yourself room to operate at a more strategic level.

Remember, sustainable leadership isn't about doing less - it's about accomplishing more through others while maintaining personal effectiveness over the long term. By learning to balance achievement drive with sustainability, leaders can build lasting impact that extends beyond their personal capacity.

The most successful leaders understand that their legacy isn't measured by how many challenges they personally overcome, but by how many capable leaders they develop along the way.

Rest, Reset, Spiral Up: Learning Leadership in Real Time

As I celebrate the release of my book Spiraling Up, I find myself living its principles in real-time. With a demanding 9-week travel and leadership training schedule, it took a Colorado snowstorm and my wife's gentle reminder to recognize that I needed rest. A few sharp comments revealed that fatigue of my own pace and external factors from all happening around me was setting in, and negativity surfaced around those closest to me—time for a pause, self-reflection, and self-leadership after a good nap.

My experience reinforces one of the book's core insights: we often don't realize how much negativity we've absorbed until it surfaces unexpectedly. I'm thankful for the feedback that keeps me accountable to the leadership I strive to embody at home and work.

Negativity is subtle. It accumulates quietly and can impact us exponentially. If you're wrestling with its effects in your professional life, Spiraling Up offers a pathway toward positive transformation. I invite you to engage with the book, reflect on your own experiences with negativity, and join me in this journey toward shaping a positive culture around you. After all, I'm not just the author—I'm also a practitioner learning alongside you.

The Self-Care Reset: Fueling Your Personal and Professional Growth

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Back to Basics: Getting Clear on the Essentials

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of work, family, and personal responsibilities, often neglecting the most essential aspect of our lives: self-care. A recent coaching session with Kathy, dedicated executive leader and single mother of two teenage boys, shed light on the consequences of neglecting the basics and developing new habits for healthy self-care, ultimately leading to better self-leadership.

The Consequences of Neglecting the Basics

Kathy's story is not uncommon. As she juggled her demanding role at work and the responsibilities of being a single mother, she found herself on a hamster wheel of stress and exhaustion. She was getting only six hours of sleep, making poor dietary choices, and struggling to find time for exercise. The lack of self-care took a toll on her physical, mental, and emotional well-being, leaving her feeling depleted and unable to show up as her best self, both at work and at home.

The Impact on Leadership and Personal Life

Neglecting self-care not only affects personal well-being but also significantly impacts one's ability to lead effectively. Kathy realized that her lack of self-care hindered her ability to make sound decisions, communicate effectively, and manage her team with patience and clarity. Moreover, it took a toll on her personal life as she struggled to fully present and engage with her children.

Developing New Habits for Healthy Self-Care

Kathy began to develop new habits to break the neglect cycle and prioritize self-care. She committed to getting at least seven hours of sleep each night, making healthier food choices, and carving out time for exercise, mainly walking, which she found to be a meditative and restorative practice. Additionally, she recognized the importance of setting boundaries and creating quiet time for herself, whether working from home occasionally or taking a solo weekend trip to recharge.

Three Practical Steps to Getting Back to Basics of Self-Care

1. Prioritize Sleep: Aim for at least 7-8 hours each night. Adequate sleep is crucial for physical and mental recovery, emotional regulation, and overall well-being. Establish a consistent sleep schedule and create a relaxing bedtime routine to promote better sleep.

2. Nourish Your Body: Make conscious choices about the foods you consume. Opt for a balanced diet rich in whole foods, fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins. Proper nutrition fuels your body and mind, providing the energy and clarity needed to tackle daily challenges and maintain optimal health.

3. Incorporate Movement: Find a form of physical activity you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine. Whether walking, yoga, swimming, or dancing, exercise releases endorphins, reduces stress and improves overall physical and mental well-being. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week.

The Path to Better Self-Leadership - Small Steps Lead to Better Life Giving Habits

By prioritizing self-care, Kathy noticed a positive shift in her energy, productivity, and overall well-being. She approached her work with greater clarity and confidence, leading her team more effectively and navigating the challenges of her role with greater ease. Moreover, she was more present and engaged with her children, creating a healthier and happier home environment.

The journey to better self-leadership begins with a commitment to self-care. By recognizing the consequences of neglecting the basics and developing new habits for healthy self-care, we can cultivate the resilience, clarity, and emotional well-being necessary to lead ourselves and others effectively. As Kathy's story demonstrates, prioritizing self-care is not a luxury but a necessity for personal and professional success. By putting our oxygen masks on first, we can show up as our best selves and positively impact all areas of our lives.

Coaching Question When's the last time you felt like you were thriving? What are some of those practices you could re-engage into your daily routines? Still not sure where to begin? Start by taking 10-15 minute morning and afternoon breaks in your workday for a short walk. If helpful, bring a friend with you. Pay attention to how you feel afterwards, then build on your disciplines. What can you do to get back to the basics of your personal health for your professional success?

Personal Reflection

1. Reflect on a time when you felt your best, both physically and mentally. What self-care practices were you engaging in during that period?

2. What are some small, manageable steps you can take to prioritize your self-care, starting today?

3. How can you incorporate more movement into your daily routine, even during a busy workday?

4. What benefits do you notice in your mood, energy levels, and productivity when you consistently prioritize self-care?

5. How can you encourage and support your colleagues or team members to prioritize their own self-care, creating a culture of well-being in your workplace?

By asking ourselves these questions and taking action to prioritize our self-care, we can reclaim our sense of thriving and show up as our best selves in all areas of our lives.